Anonymous: you're good man! thanks for letting me talk it out
Thank you! And no problem, I will always be here to talk :)
Anonymous: okay okay, couple of other things. first, she has said some really nasty stuff, and i mean like really really shitty. no one understands why i still want to be her friend, but i feel like she only said shit because she wants me to hurt as much as i hurt her. second, she wont talk to me, ive tried it all, and the one time it did work, it was just total slander against me. i just have no cue what to do and all the people around me are so biased one way or the other. sorry to put weird stuffs on u!
hmm, ok. Well, yes, I would try again to talk to her, no matter how pointless it may seem. But, if she has a phone, a good idea might be to text her. Becuase unlike words, a text is a text, and one way or another when you send it she will read it sometime, and if you make sure that it is saying absolutely everything that you need to say, she will remember it. Then maybe you could see where that gets you. It really is a tricky situation, sorry that this happened to you! my best advice would be just to probably show her how much you are sorry, and make sure it is a way that she can remember! Sorry I can’t help that well :P
Anonymous: Thanks for answering! your advice is great but... Its been 4 months, and ive tried most of that. I have explained to the other friend that she meant a hell of a lot to me, but i defs could go deeper in a discussion. Do you think thats the path to take? Other info too, og best friend is super stubborn, so me and some others are being to think because its been so long, she doesnt want to start talking to me again because it forces her to almost "go back" on her beliefs ya feel? Thank u loads
no problem!! Yes I do think that is the path to take :) I think that if you try to (which I’m sure you have) see things from her perspective, that you could talk about it with her in a way that she would understand a little bit more. I think that maybe once you do this she will see that it is ok to go back on her beliefs just a little bit so you can go back to being best friends :) If you have not tried to talk to her in a deep kinda conversation yet, and she’s stubborn, and it has been 4 months, I think that you should definitely start one! And becuase you were best friends, she should be a little more sympathetic (or any other verb that is the opposite of stubborn) towards the subject. :)
Anonymous: alright I have a question for you. i kinda fucked over my best friend by being friends with someone who said something shitty about her. now, not trying to make my self look better or anything, but the only reason i was friends with the talking-shit girl was because shes dating OUR other best friend. But truly I know i fucked up other places here and there. All i want is my best friend back its all i think about ya know? Any ideas? (done every apology in the book she wont even look at me) thank
Wow, that really sounds like a tricky situation!! I think that you should carefully explain it to her and give her a bit of time for it to ‘sink in’. Maybe she’ll come around and see it as you trying to not make anyone unhappy (I do the same thing as you a lot , that’s what I do it for :P) If this doesn’t work, maybe you should explain the whole situation to your OTHER best friend (who was dating the shit-talker), maybe he/she could help the offended friend to understand a bit more. Nonetheless, I think that your best friend needs is just some time to think about it for herself and try to understand it from your point of view, hopefully she will. But definitely try to help the situation as best as you can :)